Our autistic child rehearses the messages in videos and music she watches multiple times until she knows them by heart, even if they are upsetting or confusing or downright counter to useful perspectives I want her to have. So I finally decided to create the memorization notebook, whether for words or concepts like pi = 3.14. She needs to have something in her brain that sticks and is reliable to recall, other than songs' often nauseatingly mixed messages, like Cindy Lauper's "True Colors", "Girl is on Fire" by Alicia Keyes, Christina Aguilara's "Beautiful" where they are saying positive things with negative feel and minor keys so she's confused and depressed by them, or cartoons like the Simpson's where she sometimes learns and enjoys episodes where beliefs that absolutely will NOT help her and will undermine her progress are being promoted.
She knows the golden rule, Grant Cardone's "Success is my duty", and my telling her that her job is to figure things out, create things, clean her environment, etc, but it's just so little compared with the hundreds of hours of media she's already memorized. I will come up with a list of phrases I want her to remember about her daily path through life, like a system, just as I created a list of chores in the house and she's WAY more effective cleaning because of it.
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